Smartphone use is meddling in our marriages in ways that are sometimes benign but often frustrating.

A human doesn’t enter into the world with a fully formed personality springing forth from their genes. Rather, babies enter the world with a temperament — or the raw material of personality — that is sculpted into personality by experiences in the world. According to a new meta-analysis, it’s the kids who have the stormiest inner lives that have the most at stake in family dynamics.

There’s an argument for changing systems from within. Break the glass ceiling, extend a hand, pull others up behind you. But how do we find the energy to break the glass ceiling on four hours of sleep, with a sick kid, a working spouse, no family around, and a strained bank account? School hours and office hours don’t match, leaving parents scrambling for after care.

The children are being dangerously ignored by their self-centered, screen-focused, me-generation parents. No, wait, the children are being dangerously coddled and attended to and overindulged and pampered by their incompetently anxious, hovering helicopter parents.

The American Academy of Pediatrics has announced new screen time guidelines for children, and they come with some surprising changes.They dispense with a lot of the old “less is more” approach to screens, and instead focus on a more nuanced approach to kids and their time spent with computers, TVs and other digital devices.

It takes a toll on the family, on the friendships, on the marriage, but most of all on the main caregiver, the mom. Most of the time they will be able to marshal all of my forces and do what needs to be done, whether it’s monitoring meds, giving a hug or knocking on his door to see if he’s OK.